Sunday, July 17, 2011

Praying for THE Partner..........

This is an early morning post... It's 3:45 am on Sunday morning and for some reason I can't sleep. The urge to write has overtaken  me to the point that I actually got out of bed to get my dad's laptop.

In case you're wondering... i didn't miss posting last week. I actually wrote a post... but I didn't feel released to publish it. If any of you know how the Holy Spirit can deal with you on certain things... then you know what I mean.... For all others... consider me "dealt with!"

This post easily displays the dichotomy that is my life. Yes... my last post was all about independence... but this one is quite the opposite! LOL... no I'm not crazy... as I've told you before, I'm just going through changes! LOL

This mind change thing, that the female species has gracefully mastered, is probably half of the reason I'm single! Hehe!

However, as I was tossing and turning in bed... I started doing something that has become part of my prayer life - I was praying for my future husband. Now, you might think this is weird, but for me it's like praying for a job interview you really want, or praying for God to touch your finances... it's just one of those things on my prayer list! :-)

I believe in faith and the concept of speaking things that be not as though they are or were (Ro. 4:17). Psalms teaches us that if we commit our ways to (please) God, He'll give us the desires of our heart (Ps. 37:4). I don't always do everything right... but I can say that in the past few years I've made a concerted effort to ensure the things I do are pleasing to God. I earnestly desire to please God with the way I live my life in public and private. Understanding this... I also know that it's possible to pray our desires into existence by praying in accordance with The Word. That doesn't mean I'll get them right away... our timeline is definitely not God's timeline. Yet, I believe praying in the flow of the will of God for your life is a method of showing sincerity to God. It also sends the message that you trust the promise he declares in Isaiah 55:11.

I know God has a plan and purpose for my life (Jer. 29:11). I know that it's His will that I prosper and be in good health (3 John 1:2). I pray in those "streams." Thus, this concept of prayer isn't unseemly when you consider that I know God didn't create man to be alone... he created a helper for man (Gen 2:18).... namely... ME (for a particular person, that is!)

Seriously though... imagination and the ability to conceive ideas and desires are a gift from God. That's how many of us figure out the "passions" we have in life. Likewise... the ability to one day be a wife is a desire that I believe God has given me. Despite wedding season... I'm not in a rush... I know that God is taking his time on cultivating the skills, ideas, and capacity for me to deal with one man for the rest of my life and similarly He's developing the necessary tools it will take for that special gentleman to deal with me!

So back to the topic... I PRAY FOR MY FUTURE HUSBAND! And, I hope he prays for me! What do those prayers sound like??? Well... God knows the details of what I desire in my mate... so the gist is:
  • that my husband is walking in the plan and purpose that God has for his life;
  • that he seeks God with all of his heart and leans not on his own understanding;
  • give him a desire for "more out of life"... to help him to be content with where God has him at the moment, but not settle for less than where God wants to take him;
  • when I meet him, he appeals to me (physically, educationally, career-wise);
  • help us finish the purpose that He's placed each of us on earth to complete. I want God to use each of us to help push and promote each other into the divine destiny He's called us to achieve! 

I know that my future husband is going to be a great man of God! He will be relevant and influential in his generation and time! I speak that and claim it for his life. In the meantime, I often wonder what's holding me back from meeting him. What is God trying to teach me or cultivate in my life that I'm missing? Is there something I'm supposed to learn, master or accomplish before I meet my husband? I believe that there's obviously a strategy in place. There's something that God is doing in me.

Knowing this, I'm committed to letting God work out whatever it is in me. When it's time for me to meet Mr. Right, I won't lag behind God's plan or sprint ahead of it. I want to be precisely in line with where God wants me to be! I'm certain of one thing however, He that has begun a good work in me, is faithful to complete it (Philippians 1:6)!

Bring on the process. Whomever he is, I'll be ready whenever he arrives!

I've shared... now you join in! Do you pray for your mate? What things do you pray for in a mate?


  1. Beautifully written cuzzo. I especially love the sentence, 'imagination and the ability to conceive ideas and desires are a gift from God' very true and eloquent.

    As for me...yes, i pray for a mate, but most importantly, i pray that i am able to commune with God in such a manner that i am transformed into the person who is ready for my partner (also ready) when he arrives.

  2. Yes...I stopped dating and finally prayed for my husband and myself. I was very specific in my prayer and just waited for him. One thing that I kept in mind is that no matter how long it took, I would wait patiently. God hears you, but it must be in His time and when He feels you're ready.