I'm a people person. I enjoy being out and about when I'm in the mood. However, professional networking stumps me. Lately, several of my friends, have said the following words: "You're never going to meet anyone if you're at home."
Now... this statement befuddles me because I am all of the above that I mentioned. For crying out loud friends and countrymen... have you not read my previous posts?!?! I'm a busy lady!!!! What I haven't shared is that I've had house guests for the last two months. All of which I've entertained on some level. I've also spent a majority of the summer cruising around Houston. Needless to say, I'm tired and I'm not in a going out mood right now. I feel like I need to catch up on my beauty rest and get my workout grind ON!! Gotta a goal set for my 27th birthday!!!
This taken into consideration, where did the idea come from that I have to go out with the expectation of meeting someone???? In my conversations with friends, I've learned that many single women look forward to their next wedding invite hoping that their "Mister Right" is sitting across the aisle. Similarly, several of my friends go various places just to simultaneously meet guys while hanging out with the girls. This might work for some ladies... but I DON'T THINK THIS WAY... I live my life in the moment. My focus is on enjoying the people with whom I came. I avoid the expectation that every interaction with the outside world might be my "lucky day" to meet my new boo. If I lived with that expectation, I'd be disappointed every time I returned home.
My perspective is "if I happen to meet someone, great... if not... oh well!" It wasn't God's intended day for me. This doesn't mean that I don't think intently about the "face" I show the outside world. I look my best every time I leave my house, but that's because I take pride in ME. As I've stated many times, the man God has for me will find me. I could be under a rock and he'll turnover the right rock and the right time to get to me.
I realize that God has one person that He's intended for me... so what's the point wasting time meeting randoms if they aren't him. On the other hand... I don't mind getting to know various guys to see if they have potential. But these days... it's getting easier and easier to weed folks out in the first few conversations! LOL
Anyone who knows me should understand that I'm an active person - I enjoy girls nights with the homies, trying new restaurants, movies, traveling, Sooner football, and I'm always entertaining folks at my place. Add in work, exercising 3-4 times a week and church services/ ministry activities - I have a full life!
I know we have this idea that "God helps those who helps themselves." For me... going out more (which doesn't include clubs or the party life - not my style) is not the way for me to help God. I think my part of helping God comes from making a conscious decision to live faithfully in this single season, spending time cultivating my relationship with Him, and living a life in private and public that's pleasing to him. I know that out of pleasing God, he'll give me the desires of my heart (Ps. 37:4).
However... being that I'm single... my way might not be the perfect way......... so, all my married, Christian friends... please provide feedback. Is my perspective skewed... Help a sista out (and her single friends) out! I can see this becoming a great conversation!
In the meantime... enjoy the vid below!