You're Never Gonna Meet Anybody If.................

I'm a people person. I enjoy being out and about when I'm in the mood. However, professional networking stumps me. Lately, several of my friends, have said the following words: "You're never going to meet anyone if you're at home."

Now... this statement befuddles me because I am all of the above that I mentioned. For crying out loud friends and countrymen... have you not read my previous posts?!?! I'm a busy lady!!!! What I haven't shared is that I've had house guests for the last two months. All of which I've entertained on some level. I've also spent a majority of the summer cruising around Houston.  Needless to say, I'm tired and I'm not in a going out mood right now. I feel like I need to catch up on my beauty rest and get my workout grind ON!! Gotta a goal set for my 27th birthday!!!

This taken into consideration, where did the idea come from that I have to go out with the expectation of meeting someone???? In my conversations with friends, I've learned that many single women look forward to their next wedding invite hoping that their "Mister Right" is  sitting across the aisle. Similarly, several of my friends go various places just to simultaneously meet guys while hanging out with the girls. This might work for some ladies... but I DON'T THINK THIS WAY... I live my life in the moment. My focus is on enjoying the people with whom I came. I avoid the expectation that every interaction with the outside world might be my "lucky day" to meet my new boo. If I lived with that expectation, I'd be disappointed every time I returned home.

My perspective is "if I happen to meet someone, great... if not... oh well!" It wasn't God's intended day for me. This doesn't mean that I don't think intently about the "face" I show the outside world. I look my best every time I leave my house, but that's because I take pride in ME. As I've stated many times, the man God has for me will find me. I could be under a rock and he'll turnover the right rock and the right time to get to me.

I realize that God has one person that He's intended for me... so what's the point wasting time meeting randoms if they aren't him. On the other hand... I don't mind getting to know various guys to see if they have potential. But these days... it's getting easier and easier to weed folks out in the first few conversations! LOL

Anyone who knows me should understand that I'm an active person - I enjoy girls nights with the homies, trying new restaurants, movies, traveling, Sooner football, and I'm always entertaining folks at my place. Add in work, exercising 3-4 times a week and church services/ ministry activities - I have a full life!

I know we have this idea that "God helps those who helps themselves." For me... going out more (which doesn't include clubs or the party life - not my style) is not the way for me to help God. I think my part of helping God comes from making a conscious decision to live faithfully in this single season, spending time cultivating my relationship with Him, and living a life in private and public that's pleasing to him. I know that out of pleasing God, he'll give me the desires of my heart (Ps. 37:4).

However... being that I'm single... my way might not be the perfect way......... so, all my married, Christian friends... please provide feedback. Is my perspective skewed... Help a sista out (and her single friends) out! I can see this becoming a great conversation!

In the meantime... enjoy the vid below!

I'm not krazy... I'm just going through changes!

As I've alluded to in my other post, it's been a journey to get to this point in my walk with God. By no means do I declare to be perfect. In fact, I recently learned that there is a fine line between being "an inspiration to others" and "judgmental." I aim to be used by God but not come across critical - but sometimes that's difficult if I come off in a way that's perceived as offensive to my recipient OR if people aren't open to receiving what I'm sharing. By God's grace and mercy, I'm being perfected through the test, trials, circumstances, and situations that I find myself in.


That being said, I frequently reminisce on the time when my best friend was starting to feel compelled to establish a better relationship w/ God. When she was making moves... I was totally like, "Dude... what are you doing?" "Why are you doing that?" She even heard the occasional... "That's stupid." I thank God that my negative words didn't stifle her journey.  But then... those same tugs started pulling on my heart. All of a sudden it clicked!


Kierra Sheard has a song called "One." The song's chorus says this:
"One - way to get to where He is;
 One - only one life to give;
 So I'm do what I gotta do so I can be counted"


What clicked to me was that there's only one way to get to where I'm trying to go at the end of this life and there's only one way that I can live my life to get there. So, like my BFF, I started to surrender my life to God's will and plan for my life. To some, that may seem crazy... but it's not. I still have an AWESOME life! I probably laugh more now than I ever have. However, my tastes have changed... I don't desire the same things that I used to. Now, I live with the focus that want my actions to please God. This doesn't mean that I don't slip up and do things that I regret from time-to-time. Facebook is a prime example... I blab how I'm feeling and then feel convicted about my word choice later. But I'm slowly getting better at this... and I've got a long way to go!


These new desires have, in turn, impacted the type of man that I want. When someone would ask me my criteria for dating, I would say "I want someone who goes to church"... and then rattle off the rest of my 36 page list. But that's changed. These days, I want someone who thinks the same way I do on the above topics - has a sincere relationship with God, who's compelled to walk out the plan God has for his life, loves his family, has a fun and energetic personality but at the same time and can be as chilled and relaxed as I am. Although we're supposed to pray without ceasing... that doesn't mean you're supposed to be a bump on a log!!! LOL


I hope this song challenges you to be your best self through a relationship with Christ! Here's my jam of the week! One... by Kierra Sheard. Lata Gatas!